I ran across this article about the Southwest Florida Christian Prom, where “there will be no backless, strapless dresses … dance-floor confrontations. No risque dancing or music with suggestive lyrics.” The organizer, also one of the mother’s of an attendee, said:
“’We really want this to be a blessing, … We want to give them a place where they can dance to healthy music and be dressed in a way that isn’t offensive. It’s an atmosphere free of temptation, focused on good, clean fun.”
As a Baha’i, I have a hard time understanding the motivation behind this event, and I am concerned for the message that it sends to these students. I question if whether or not these parents’ intentions of providing their children with this escape from the larger society could cause deeper problems. By segregating their teens they are likely not doing as much to protect them as they are creating a divide and teaching them that those who are different are bad. If these kids continue to believe that those who would dress differently, or have fun in a different manner than their own invented guidelines permit than all they will accomplish is to have them learn to remove themselves from society.
Unfortunately, they seem to have been taught that things that have not been deigned to be “Christian” are not appropriate for them:
“A large portion of popular culture is inappropriate for a Christian lifestyle,” said Cullen Kollack, 16, a junior at Gateway Charter School. The Christian prom is a "safe place" for teens, he said.
Baha’is are taught to live amongst people, all people, no matter what their beliefs and practices may be. I shudder when I see religion used to separate people and not to unite them. There is no reason why these children cannot attend the same kind of prom that every other child does and still have fun no matter how they want to dress or dance. If they are strong enough in their convictions to organize their alternative prom, I should think they are also strong enough to be able to attend the “regular” prom and still behave in accordance with their beliefs.
The question of what exactly is meant by a “Christian lifestyle” is still out there. I have searched the New Testament and I found no references to proms, music with “suggestive” lyrics or backless dresses. There is a phone number to call to get more details on the dress code and I am very tempted to call!
Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp.
~ Psalms 149:3 (KJV)
They send forth their little ones like a flock, and their children dance.
~ Job 21:11 (KJV)
TeacherJay Reflections children, temptation, unity, youth